NEW YORK — Regular romps in the bedroom are always a great way for couples to keep the spark alive, but as many spouses can attest to, getting around to fooling around seems to grow more difficult as the years pass by. So how much is “normal” when it comes to making love? According to a new survey, the average American couple has sex nine times per month — which translates to 108 times per year.
A new survey of 2,000 American adults in relationships by adult product online retailer EdenFantasys sought to find out just how important having sex was to most couples and how frequently they were enjoying time in the bedroom.
They found that the average couple has sex for, as it turns out, 69 minutes per week or about 60 hours per year.
While 3% of respondents claims they have sex a whopping minimum of 30 times in a month, it was much more normal for couples to admit that finding the time to make love wasn’t so easy. Three-quarters of participants found their busy schedules cause them to struggle to have sex regularly, and 60% admitted they wished they were having more sex. In fact, 12% of respondents said they were lucky to have sex even just once a month.
One solution to spicing up the romance between partners is to schedule “sexpointments,” that is, actually coming up with specific dates and times to do the deed. It may sound silly, but half of the respondents admit to coming up with an exact time and place for some intimacy. The study found that the average couple schedules six sexpointments each month, and that 20% found doing so to be even more romantic than doing it spontaneously.
As for why couples say they schedule sex, about 40% of respondents said that having kids in the house forces them to book those rare moments they have to themselves. Thirty-six percent said that their partner is often busy, leading them to take charge and pencil in sexpointments. A quarter of participants admitted they’re trying out the tactic just because they want to have sex more frequently.
The survey also showed that Saturday nights at 10 p.m. was the most popular time for couples to schedule their sexpointments.
The survey was conducted by OnePoll in January.
Hell, we haven’t had sex nine times in the last nine years total. Early 50’s and wife equates sex with work. I need to invent a sex position called Candy Crush, that may pique her interest.
oh I can relate…
zzzzziiiiing
How about Hillary or Oprah?
None are with the spouse, however.
Wow..I’m 31 and only getting sex not even once a month.
Then again my wife is currently pregnant and not attractive to me at all, so maybe that will change. But they say kids are the ruiner of passion atleast for a while.
I’m also not really into traditional intercourse and more into foreplay and fetish stuff, which is really easy to satisfy through porn. Always have been. If anyone is ever begging for sex it’s her.
Wow. I’ll bet you’re going to be a ton of fun to be married to.
Menopause destroys relationships
gold destroys relationships. in the firm of a circular metal band on the left hand
No one is stupid enough to believe that married men are having 69 minutes of sex with their wives each week. The online adult products retailer surveyed people who likely are more sexually active than the average person. And people will exaggerate their sexual escapades and frequency because no one wants to admit that they aren’t ‘winners’ at the game of sex.
Why not? Sounds reasonable to me. If your wife is frigid or preoccupied, please accept my condolences, but don’t project your situation onto the rest of us. That said, I will concede your point about potential bias in the survey as a result of sampling distortions IF Edens Fantasy surveyed only its own customers, but the article doesn’t say that. Also it’s possible that people who patronize Edens Fantasy do so because they feel that this aspect of their lives is inadequate (hence a lower frequency of experience than the general population).
It depends on how they consider each encounter. A friend of mine included every time he entered his wife in a single night. My wife and I only count each time we get into bed which is any where from 6 to 14 times each month. I go into her three to four times each encounter so that could be counted as 18 to 56 times each month. I think that that is how they came up with an inflated number.
5% of retirees have sufficient funds to carry them through retirement, so they weren’t working or saving. Were they having sex then?
Stopping smoking–that’s a tough one.
We made a deal, my wife and I, we said we’d only smoke after sex.
I got the same pack since 1975.
What bothers me– is she’s up to two packs a day.
–Rodney Dangerfield
I am giving you and Rodney one of these>>>>>
I have sex roughly two (2) times each day. It’s like brushing my teeth.
With a coochie.
Jerking off when you’re 16 doesn’t count young Sun Bear.
I’m assuming that 9 times a month only refers to sex with your spouse.
Average? Yeah right, and for what age groups? I didn’t see anything relative to age groups being polled. Yeah 19 to 25 year olds could have sex every day, but only if they’re married. If you actually took the average of all humans who have regular six, you would find those number much lower. studies like these are a catches-catch-can and can be manipulated six ways coming and going depending on who was surveyed, where were the surveys taken, blah blah blah…… AND THEN, AND THEN you have to trust that whomever answered the questionaire would actually be telling the truth.
As someone polled for this survey, I can assure you that you are mistaken.
With that possibility being about one in five million, I don’t buy it. Also young one how would you know the intricacies of who or how those figures were aggregated such that you know it was this exact survey?
Most modern day studies are no more than propaganda posing as legitimate science, when nothing could be further from the truth. Specifically if you were phoned for your opinion. IE: do you actually think they should trust those polled to tell the truth? Only fools would trust that type of survey as being legitimate.
The word is “whoever” (nominative case).
Thank goodness you’re here to help.
Like every other poll out there…..this one is GREATLY flawed….hehe…
9 times a month? Its more like 7 times a week In my house. If we miss a day she lets me know it too. If you ever wondered if there is $ex after 50, well now you know. With the kids all grown up and gone we have plenty of quiet time now.
I don’t believe you.
You can believe it or not, but it is true. They are out there you just have to find the right one.
Lucky you.
If you see my house “A rockin”, don’t come a knockin…CALL THE POLICE IMMEDIATELY.. Becasue it ain’t us….
Ours are at the age where they no longer bang on the door wondering what we are doing…..
2000 liars!
A couple in their 20’s is going to have sex more than a couple in their 40’s. A couple in their 50’s is going to have sex more than a couple in their 70’s.
It should be broken down by ages.
This survey is useless.
Not really, me and my wife our in our 40’s and have more sex than ever.
Good for you Eric. However you and your wife are the exception, not the rule.
How do you know?
Trust me, he knows!
ROFL!
my wife and I are in our early 60s. We have been having sex in the hallway for years. Every time we pass each other on our way to our separate bedrooms, she mutters “Fkcu You” to me
Ha…..why wait until you’re in the hall. I get the ‘screw you’ as long as I’m in earshot.
i broke out in a guffaw.
That’s called oral sex.
Superlative laugh! Thanks!
Well hotdog senior jones yeeeeee haw
Sadly enough I think you’re right.
Me an my wife had sex about once a year… Me and my girlfriend on the other hand…
That’s called “the stranger” not “girlfriend.”
Yeah I don’t know I am with Eric. It’s mo betta mo olda…for now anyway. When all else fails Popsicle sticks and rubber bands I’ll go as long as I can.
Liar
Not really, I can get it from my wife anytime I want it….she can’t get enough….
So says the man with the smooth palms.
No, it’s true…she really can’t!
Agreed. My girlfriend and I are each in our 50s and we are having sex more frequently than we did 10, 20, 30 years ago. A big part of frequency is how well you and your partner click.
Anecdotal evidence is not something that can sway reputable surveys. Your comment shows exactly why.
That’s strange, cuz I thought I was having more sex than ever with your wife…
Me too.
Ever since y’all hired that new pool boy, she’s been ferocious.
But the study is confined to sex with each other, Eric.
We are in our 40’s too and sex is at least once per day and BJ’s whenever I want one which is normally once per day as well. We have always been perverts though… that is what made us get together back in high school in the first place lol. 30 years together going strong!
Typically maybe. But my wife and I are in our forties and we have more than ever. It’s a lot more fun than when we were in our twenties……
I was thinking the same thing. Totally flawed study.
It’s only broken down by age if you are — LOL
True. Most people are broken down by age. That’s why Bart Starr doesn’t play in the NFL any longer.
Ouch. Yes, age is coming for you, hurtling at you.
Agreed. That’s the first thing I thought, too.
Plus, pix or it didn’t happen. đŸ™‚
How in the name of anything would you know what the amorous activities of the members of any organization are? Even if you are a member of a group like the Mormon Tabneracle Choir ( and Light Show) I would seriously doubt they would share en masse that kind of information with you or anyone else.
Obama was taking it in the pooper at least 9 times a DAY from Reggie Love!!!
at least
Is that with each other? Or is that alone or with other people?
How about animals????
That address in studies of liberals. Not everyday Americans.
If you think liberals have the reputation for being animal copulators, you’re dumb enough to be a Marine!
If you think Marines are dumb, you’re just cowardly enough not to ever be a Marine.
Hahahahahaha.
Lowest ASVAB requirements. Simple as that. You might have reclaimed jarhead, but when the rest of us use it we’re calling you stupid.
In the modern world, if you have to join the armed forces you’re not the cream of the crop, intelligence wise. Simple as that.
I’d gladly be called a coward if it means I don’t have to go fight someone else’s stupid war. Just like your fatass slob president. What a coward that fatass is!
Lowest ASVAB requirements huh? You’re a liar and a coward. And lets see…how cowardly was hitlery landing under sniper fire, or Bill burning flags in college. Not the cream of the crop? I bet you’re even too cowardly to say that to anyone’s face. Enjoy the freedom of speech you have to lie, someone else paid the price for it. You’re the kiddie fiddlin’ coward. let’s not forget it.
Loser? You’re the cowardly dumaz who talks smack from the security of your mommy’s basement. I’ve got news commie coward, I am a millennial and the muzzles you love to take turns goat hu mp ing with would toss your h0m0 a$$ of the rooftops if it weren’t for people who stand up for your rights you so artfully won’t defend. If you knew anything, you can be a cook with the lowest asvab score, or be a platoon leader with the highest. But yet you’re too dumb to know a Corporal in the Marines has the same job description and ability of an LT in the Army. Go back to surfing kiddie fiddling vids Carlos Danger, the least of us is out of your reach.
Yea, you’re definitely a coward. To much a pu$$y to stand up to the commies and muzzles you wish would just leave you h0m0s alone and let you spread your diseases in peace. I love the draft dodger comment though. Considering your ghett0 messiah and his pant suit lackey served two tours in college smoking dope and eating dogs.
You’re so afraid of using bad words on the internet!
Here’s a tip: if you’re so worried about “h0m0s” maybe you should stop reading Matt Drudge. He is a “h0m0” who lives with another man, goes to gay bars, loves Prince and George Michael.
Every time you type his address into the internet bar, you’re supporting his lifestyle through the advertising money he makes.
Hell, he’s probably nearly as gay as most Marines!
I’m glad to know how you meet your dates, but not really. Keep trying coward. You’re insignificant.
I’ll repeat: every time you visit Drudge you’re supporting his gay agenda. I have no problem with that, but you’re clearly afraid of it.
You’re a worthless bootlicker. A former government employee.
Hell, I bet you yourself were just a cook.
And you may have even WORKED for the “Kenyan” guy. Or the now second-dumbest President, the shitkicker president who pretended to be a Texan even though he was a New Englander WASP.
You weren’t serving anyone but yourself or the government you hate.
LOL. A true commie fascist you are huh? Every time you visit CNN you’re empowering Zucker’s communistgay agenda. So the billionaire POTUS who won 90% of the counties in America on a shoestring budget compared to the stolen DNC billions is dumb? I guess your parents are brother and sister to have not aborted the slow witted person you are. You’re ignorance and jealousy of anyone who served in the military is just cowardice. Sad really, but hey, that’s what we signed up for. Protecting the rights and life of h0m0s like you so you don’t have to be the next victim of the muzzie building toss Olympics. One day the feds are gonna find your kiddie fiddlin’ stash and we’ll be rid of your nambla coward a z z.
And by your response I know you’re a simple coward just trying to steal and take everything you want without earning it, like a good cowardly commie. The only reality is you’re a coward, and your parents should’ve aborted you and not the other 12 embryos your wh0 re momma grew.
Cowards like you are always too weak to understand service of self and anything that has to do with honor. You’re out as soon as someone mentions sacrifice or dignity. Just sit back and pretend you know what an ASVAB and GT scores actually mean. You’re just another wannabe. It takes courage to defend people like you. But again, the least of us is still out of your reach. You’ll have to resign yourself to internet smack talk and plan your next knockout game attack on old folks and crying about who’s gonna pay your rent because you’re too dumb and lazy to work for it yourself.
I’m fine with my career and service. Don’t have to beat my chest about it on the internet with my username or avatar.
Your time in the sandbox is the only thing that holds your life together. SAD!
You don’t know what service is. Throwing rocks at old folks during your fascist riots isn’t service. I don’t need to beat my chest like some Kenyan POTUS who can’t give a speech without saying me and I 500 times in 4 minutes. I already know what I’ve done. You on the other hand feel the need to lash out at vets because you couldn’t make the cut.
9 Times A Month??? I don’t get it 9 times a year….
Don’t feel bad; they lied about the 9 times a month.
and the 69 minutes a week. even if most men did it 3 times a week, the total time would probably be more like 15 minutes!
good one! this article was “too much fun”
I used to but now suffer from LDS, eg, Limp Dick Syndrome.
Welcome to my world…been married 28 yrs….probably 9 times in the 10 yrs…sad…
i dont get it once in 9 years. gotsa to go outside
A guy told me that hen he has sex with his wife he knows its time to pay estimated taxes. when he gets a bj he knows its time to get his drivers license renewed.